We are "raising" our children. What are we raising them to? Do we let them be what they are and who they are?
Of course we are responsible for them. We have to teach them politeness and manners. We need to be responsible adults, but what does this mean?
For example, I don't think it's responsible to push a girl into being a lawyer if she's got her heart set on being a carpenter. It is NOT healthy for a young boy to join the football-team if he is determined and passionate about painting and drawing.
It is NOT our children's job fulfilling OUR dreams!!
Please! Never use the words irresponsible or stupid towards your child. Never frown at their interests or friends. Never laugh at their ideas and thoughts.
You are stealing their potentials, they forget who they are! Please let us all try to respect the fact that every child in this world is an unique being, an independent soul on its own, individual journey in this world.
We are so lucky to have them with us for a while. Remember they don't come FROM us but THROUGH us, so let us try to be worthy of their trust.
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And no matter how old they are, they fell like a child to their parents, and the words and actions will never stop affecting their spirit.
ONE single word from my Mom can make me feel like a naughty little girl, and I have to struggle for a while to find the REAL person in me again and straighten my back and pride.
Everybody makes mistakes, I'm a Mom myself, and surely I've said and done stupid things towards my children. But I really really try to stop and think, and apologize when I've done them wrong. That's not a sign of my weakness as a mother, in fact it's one of the strong sides of being a mother: not just treating the children as kids, but as the human beings they, as all, are.
eiramy
"Children aren’t coloring books. You don’t get to fill them with you favorite colors."
Khaled Hosseini - "The Kite Runner"
Thanks for good comments...! And spectatia, that was a excellent quote, I will put it on the front page!!
Glad you liked it. :-) I think it says a alot in a few words on this imporant issue.
Good post.
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